Calm after the storm
I'm rather more relaxed and happy today, I know you'll all be glad to hear. I've finished some important work in the office and finished a case study and separate presentation for my Firm Strategy & Management course. Not only that, but after a lot of confusion, I have found out that the exams I was expecting to take this Saturday have in fact been moved to next Saturday. One of those chinese announcements from Uni that I will have ignored on a busy day.
Hooray! That takes the pressure off. I kicked back and watched a movie today to celebrate. Gosford Park. A mostly unexciting film, but interesting to watch if you are interested about the life of the Lords and Ladies of England well before the days of mobile phones.
Mum wrote me a very nice email, which made my evening. Very considered I thought it was. She talked about how I needed to either 'join the locals' or leave them. Funny enough, I realised that the challenge in the office is harder than that. It's not just PRC culture, our management consists of Dutch, French, Singaporean, Malaysian, American.... It really is quite a challenge. An interesting exercise nonetheless.
She also brought up the question of our family friend, the one who's happily shacked up in New York now, after his Chicago MBA. 2.4 kids and all that jazz. She pointed out that he did his MBA at the age of 30 or so, and married at 32. Actually, that's not too dissimilar from my situation, but the point still held, which was what's the hurry. I'll learn plenty from what I'm doing, and that's the important thing.
On that, it's a bit frustrating that I haven't been able to seriously engage in client work yet. It's partly a result of my still limited mandarin. But from my eyes, it's more a result of our office not yet having beaten the market. I'd love for our company to be triumphant in the marketplace, and I know we are heading that way, but we're certainly not there yet. I'm here as one of many others helping to make that happen. It's just personally frustrating for my CV in the meantime. It bums me that I've been in China for what will soon approach a year, and whilst I've been in gainful employment for much of that, I haven't had tangible client work.
Mind you, my understanding of business here has come on greatly. 3 months ago I was asked to write an overview of the China practice. I didn't know where to start! I didn't know much about the practice, our market, our competitors... even who to ask for help. Now, it's much better. I have opinions on most issues, and can reach out to more people for help. My opinions are by no means 100% correct, but hey, it's a start. And they aren't so dissimilar to the views of others in my office, including those of my scary colleague. By being in the office, with some exposure to what sells, doesn't sell, hearing of projects going on and the issues they are facing, I've gained some valid experience.
Still, no way around that. I'm lucky to be paid to wait for client work, and so I'll wait a little more patiently for my bout of client work to begin. It's just a matter of getting myself started. Once I've done one good project, more will follow naturally. I thought today about quitting work, to study some more mandarin. A similar train of thought to the one that tempts me to quit or at least pause my MBA. The argument is that the Mandarin thing really holds me back, but with lots on at work/school, I really don't have much time/energy to learn Mandarin.
It's a tricky balance. Not enough hours in the day for everything. I can't Just learn mandarin - the stuff I'm learning at work through experience, and the context I gain from the MBA, are important as well. It's no good just being able to speak mandarin - I need to know how to operate in this envrionment as well. So.... I'm going to soldier on with the busy schedule as well.
Another thing my mother mentioned... no time for a girlfriend. I'll agree there - just got too much on. It's a shame. I'm a big fan of keeping balance in one's life. But for now, to get over this particular hump, I think I'm going to hide away for a little bit and get this work/chinese/mba thing sorted out proper. It needs to be done so that I can enjoy life better later on. The sad part is when I look back at my life and see the times that I've done that before. GMAT prep, MBA apps, learning mandarin in London, not living in dorms when i started learning mandarin in fudan, and nearly every difficult consulting project I've done - all involved focusing my efforts for a time, and sacrificing some of the fun and interesting things in life.
When does a busy person cross the line from being an interesting person to a boring git? The danger is of course that if I remove all of the interesting things from my life, then with very little creative stimulus, it's hard not to be a boring git. Soap operas, inane american TV such as 'mythbusters' (this week I witnessed them trying to float a child using 30000 helium balloons, and lift a shipwrecked boat using ping pong balls - a perfect example of interesting conversation points but otherwise a complete waste of time). Also novels, magazines, cinema, art exhibits, dinner parties, and organising fun things like cycling, wall climbing, day trips out. These things, I don't have time for write now. It's a real bum.
Ho well, I'll keep a few things to keep me sane. Singing once every four months with my choir gives me something very different to do, and doesn't take up too much time. Chatting online with friends gives me some relaxation. Weekly trips to the driving range, which I am determined not to drop because it's SO difficult to pick up again otherwise, I do really enjoy improving my swing. I'm still terrible mind you, but it's fun trying to learn! Writing on this blog, hopefully shows any readers more of who I am... haha so you can judge my boringness for yourselves!
I wonder if I'm diseased, like so many others of this day and age - addicted by work ambition. So many of us are gripped by this. If it is an ailment, maybe I have it pretty bad. Should I? Or should I turn my back on it, and enjoy life instead? A tricky one to work out.
Enjoy life and relax in relative comfort?
Strive for more and make for a brighter future?
I'm still on the latter of these two. But why? and why are so many others on this plan too? must we be? Is it so bad to take plan A? I'll accept that most of my life thinking sets me up to take plan B. I'm pretty happy with the reasons why, and what I'll achieve if I go down this route. But today, I'm realising that I have the power to overturn that, to change what my life has prepared me for. Not a light decision though, and they do say it's always better to sleep on a problem than to rush into a forcing an outcome.
Food for thought another day. Thanks again for your email mum, and thanks also to wei yee, teresa and emily for asking after me! Good to have friends keeping an eye out for me.